You’ve had it. Your marriage has been in a rough place for a while, and you are ready to call it quits. At least, you think you are. Divorce is a big move. Before you proceed, it is okay to take time to think about everything.
Divorce is not something you want to rush into. There are a lot of . For many couples, it is the right decision in the end, but it is still best to be sure it is what you want and that it is the right choice for you and your family before filing your petition.
Think about and control your emotions
Starting a marriage is full of emotions, and so is ending one. If emotions are allowed to rule to the show, you may struggle through the divorce process, and you may end up with settlement terms you aren’t thrilled about. Be mindful of your emotions and don’t make rash decisions. If you move forward with a divorce filing, treat it like a business transaction and do what you can to keep emotion out of it.
If applicable, think about your children
Divorce is difficult for children. That doesn’t mean you should stick out your marriage for the sake of your kids. They will adjust, but how well they adjust depends on how well you and your ex handle the divorce and life after. Some of the best things both of you can do for your kids is create a custody plan that serves their best interests, keep them out of the line of fire, not use them as leverage and don’t speak negatively to them about their other parent.
Think about letting go
If you choose to end your marriage, think about letting go of all the anger and hurt. If you don’t, it will only hurt you in the end. Post-divorce life is all about starting over. It is about making the life you want. Don’t let anger, frustration and hurt stop you from living your best life.
Go at your own pace
There is no need to rush a divorce, but there is no need to drag it out either. Go ahead and . Work through the process at a pace you are comfortable with. In the end, you’ll hopefully be able to walk away with settlement terms that best serve your interests and help you move forward in your post-divorce life.